E172: My 2022 Goals and Master Plan | CPTSD and Trauma Healing Podcast

Hey! What's up, Unbroken Nation! Hope that you're doing well, very excited to be back with you today.

As you may have noticed over the course of the last couple of days. I've been releasing a new podcast and I want to share something with you about my goal; my biggest goal for 2022 is here in just a moment but before I do, of course, I want to take a moment and just show some love to you, The Unbroken Nation for leaving these amazing reviews and so this review is titled...

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So one dive into this, I know we at the beginning of the year typically talk about goals a lot. You go listen to the last year's, the first episode the year we talked about goals, I'm still going to talk about goals because they matter so much.

But the one thing I want to bring the light here actually this year as opposed to years past as mine. I don't typically go deep into the mind, but I was thinking about going into a deeper level of accountability and I think that often goals are far too vague, goals are far too nonchalant, they are not pointed, they are not in this way that you can lay it out in a concise way, that is non-negotiable. What do I mean by that? I think all too often when we set a goal, we say things, like – I want to help people. That is so vague, what does that mean? Does that mean opening the door for somebody, doesn’t mean paying for somebody's coffee at the grocery store or the coffee shop, or doesn’t mean, you know, going to a school and helping clean up trash?

What does that mean, what has helped people mean? When you are vague, you're setting yourself up for failure, why? Because when we have vagary in the goals that we set, there's no marker to determine whether or not we're successful or failures, right?

And so look, you're going to fail at goals, it's going to happen but you can use every single action that you take in, moving towards those goals as information as lessons, right? And what happens so often as we move towards goals without really having any indication of what it is that we're trying to accomplish and so it's easy to let ourselves off the hook when we don't accomplish it.

Think about that for a second, how many times in your life have you said I'm going to go and do this thing?

Think about this, when people say things to me where they're like, I want to write a book, this happens all the time, it's probably one of the number one across I get.

Hey, will you help me figure out how to write a book?

Will you help me figure out how to make a podcast?

Will you help me figure out how to do YouTube videos?

I want to do what you're doing. I want to help people.

I always ask them, well, how much time have you spent writing books?

How much time have you spent making podcasts?

How many hours have you spent learning how to make YouTube videos, right?

And look, it's not just that it's also physical fitness, it's diet, it's everything, you could apply this to anything ever. And so many people go, well, I haven't or I'm not there yet, or I'm going to.

Let me tell you something, incredibly important, something that will change your life; change my life. You can't be going to maybe kinda’, shoulda, or try to change your life. It doesn't work that way. You have to be decisive. You have to make a decision about your life because you are either going to or you are not going to and what people get caught up in, is the fear that it's not going to work.

But think about this whether you believe you can or you believe that you can't, you're right. We all know this, as your mindset around what you believe you're capable of all doing is everything.

Then this is one thing is Tom Bilyeu taught me years ago that has held so true that has helped me so much that I want to share with you. When you value yourself for the effort that you put in as opposed to valuing yourself for winning, you are going to be far better off because when you tie your identity to something like winning what happens when you fail; you are destroyed.

You see this in professional sports all the time. So you may know I love MMA, I love mixed Martial Arts is my favorite sport i've been practicing my tie for a long time, martial arts forever, right?

You can always watch a fighter who doesn't know how to handle a loss and watch the way that the trajectory of their career changes forever because what happens is, they are so tied to being a winner, to being a champion, to be the greatest of all time that the second they have a fallback, or a slip or a mistake, or they lose, it crushes their identity. And they don't know how to be themselves anymore, because they were never tied to the path, they were never tied to the effort, they were never tied to showing up every day, putting in the work, doing the hard things, rinse and repeating 365 days a year until they accomplish the mission, and then move on to the next thing.

And so what happens is in real life we tie ourselves so often to crossing the finish line. We go, I'm only going to be satisfied or happy when I have this thing and what happens is we quit before we get that thing because we recognize how difficult it is because we haven't yet tied ourselves to creating value in our own lives, and appreciation by the effort that we put in as opposed to accomplishing the goal. Because I'll tell you this, you know, I had this goal years ago of doing something really incredible in business that I was able to do within 10 minutes after finishing doing that thing, that took me forever to get to.

I was lost because I was like, oh, wait, what do I do now? I didn't have any other goals. I don't have any other missions. I didn't have anything else that was next for me and it was so tied my identity was so tired that I went into this spiral.

Like I'll never forget it, I was like, 27 years old, I had done this thing that I wanted to do and suddenly I was looking at my life and I was like, I don't know what to do now and I spiraled before I started to come back up.

And this was around the time I really started to step into self-education and personal development. So there's just a really interesting juxtaposition of time of growth when I started getting into learning as opposed to just trying to always accomplish things.

So what does this all have to do with my goal?

Why wanted to lay that framework out for you so I can help you understand something that I'm trying to do right now that is driving. I made a decision at the beginning of this year that I am going to release a new podcast every single day this year, every single day.

Now, let's get clear about something. That goal is still too vague. I want to release a podcast every single day. Great! What is the purpose? Why am I doing that? And how do I get there? So let me break this down for you a little bit more. If I was really going to lay out the goal in the most simplified and clear fashion, it is this.

My goal is to have the number one Mental Health Podcast in America, by the end of 2022 by releasing a new episode every single day that I record in conjunction with releasing guest episodes multiple times a week. Do you see how concise that is? I know exactly where I'm heading, I know why I'm heading there and I know how I'm going to get there by my actions.

Now look, at what I recognized, I may not actually be good enough yet to reach my goal but every single day that I'm moving towards this with effort and action, ambition and passion, I know that I am doing the right thing.

So at the end of 2022 if I come in as the number two, mental health podcast on planet Earth, I will not be destroyed in the same way that championship fighter; that championship fight or they get destroyed? Oh man, they hit the L, it's over, it's game over, right? Because their identity is tied to that victory.

My identity is tied to the effort of learning the skills every single day that will push me into the stratosphere for a long enough timeline but that has only come with adapting a tremendous amount of patience, and grace, and discipline and accountability. And the reason that I'm telling you guys this in an episode is that I am going to use this as a precursor of accountability. I'm laying out my master plan for 2022 with you.

Now, there are other things I want to be in the best physical health of my life, right? And for me, that means I want to lose 15 pounds, I want my six-pack back. Let me tell you this, that is purely a physical goal that I want for me because it makes me happy it's a tremendous amount of hard work I've done it before, I have a healthier way of doing it now than I did before, but that's important to me. I want to run a marathon I just signed up for it.

I'm super excited between now and then I have to have a minor surgery so I can get myself in a position where I can successfully reach that goal, right?

I want to also write my third and fourth book, I'm going to release two books in 2022, one will be another Personal Development Book, and one will be a Narrative Fiction Book that I'm writing for young adults because I thought to myself what did I need when I was 14 years old?

It's not this like – let's be honest like this would never resonate with fourteen-year-old me, right?

There are other things that I want to do in business as well and I have a whole list of all the goals that I want. Now look, I'm gonna tell you right now because I know this as much as I know the sun will rise tomorrow, I'm not going to reach all those goals, but I'm going to do my damn best to make sure that it happens.

There's going to be life, things are going to happen, things are going to happen that are going to interject in my path of reaching those goals because that is the Human Experience and that's why I do not tie myself to the reality that if I don't reach the goals, then I do not have value or worth in the world. I tie my reality, my self-belief, my self-esteem, who I am my identity to putting in the effort. And the reason I'm telling you guys this is because if you put in the effort, you will learn because you know what?

Here's the truth, maybe all of the goals that I have, will not be accomplished this year, I look at last year, I accomplished the vast majority of them, but there were ones that I missed and so I had to reflect on my year; I had to look at I said, what did I do wrong? Like, you have to be willing to be so nakedly honest, with yourself about both your successes and your misguidances. The moments in time, in which you made huge mistakes, where you didn't do the thing, where you didn't follow through, where you effectively, hit the snooze button on your dreams.

And in that, what I do is I take that information and I use it to learn and I leverage the information of the things I've done to be successful, to be able to mimic and model those into the future around other goals. And then I take the things that did not come to pass or did not work out in my favor or did not happen and I go, where did I miss the mark? Because when you are super clear and unabashedly honest with yourself about this, you are going to find out so many amazing tools that are going to help you along the way to ultimately get to where you want to go.

You know, I think one of the things I always have to remember, that's important for me is that I'm not doing most of this for me, is their fulfillment in it, for myself? Yes, of course, there is, that's why you do anything but ultimately, the reason that I do this is because it's an alignment of all of this, the podcast, the speaking, the coaches and the program's, my physical health, like literally everything is tied to my ultimate goal.

What is my ultimate goal?

Some of you may know this, some of you may not.

So I'll tell you, my ultimate goal is to end generational trauma through education and information, and in my lifetime, that is my goal.

And so you can see how all the things I laid out about my 2022 goals, also tie into my overarching life mission, right?

I'm so concise about that and I recognize this to coming back to this idea of not tying your identity to success. It is improbable, it is unlikely, it is rational, it is far-fetched, it's maybe even fucking irresponsible for me to think that I can end generational trauma in my lifetime, through education and information but that's not going to stop me. And that's the thing that you have to hold onto, you have to tie your effort to your identity to build your worth and who you are in the world.

And so I hope this helps you understand how you really can start to step into goals. This is high-level guys, I could go for an hour on this but I wanted to plant some seeds for you to start thinking today, right? Because there's going to be a day and I promise you in a lot of this is accountability for myself at a deeper level as well because here's what's going to happen.

On July 17^th, I'm not going to want to do this, and I'm going to remember this conversation with you today, and I'm going to remember my promise to myself and I remember being accountable and I'm going to do it anyway because that is how I have built myself by doing the hard things that I didn't want to do.

And if you want to build yourself, your self-esteem, your self-love, your self-belief, you're going to have to do things that at the moment you don't want to do that, you know, will make your life better.

So my friends, thank you so much for being here.

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