E185: How To Be Intentional About Your Habits and Routines | CPTSD and Trauma Healing Podcast
In this episode, I talk about being intentional about your habits and routines. One of the things I think is fascinating about this journey is that we have to create new meaning around the things that we do daily. If you start working out differently,...
See show notes at: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/e185-how-to-be-intentional-about-your-habits-and-routines-cptsd-and-trauma-healing-podcast/#show-notes
In this episode, I talk about being intentional about your habits and routines.
One of the things I think is fascinating about this journey is that we have to create new meaning around the things that we do daily.
If you start working out differently, you switch up your body; you switch up your routine; your body and brain have to adapt to learning, and you're growing.
Have you really thought about why you do the things that you do?
Just get focused, listen, come ready to learn, and I'm going to do my best to bring massive value to your life and your trauma healing journey.
Get a Paperback copy of Think Unbroken Understanding and Overcoming Childhood Trauma for FREE at: https://book.thinkunbroken.com/
Learn more about Coaching Program: https://coaching.thinkunbroken.com/
Learn more about: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/
Support the Podcast: Become a listed sponsor!
Follow me on Instagram @MichaelUnbroken
Learn more about coaching at https://coaching.thinkunbroken.com
Get your FREE copy of my #1 Best-Selling Book Think Unbroken: https://book.thinkunbroken.com/
Have you really thought about why you do the things that you do?
One of the things I think is really fascinating about this journey, is the idea that we have to create new meaning around the things that we do as a day in and day out. So often like, if you think about habits, for instance, people go, I do this habit, it's part of my life, I just do it, it's routine that's the way it's always been done.
I find a lot of problem with that in my own life, and I think that you may as well, when you think about what I'm about to say. Why are you doing the things that you're doing? Why are you doing the habits? Why are you going through the motions of your day-to-day life in the way that you are? Is there a purpose? Is there reason? Is their intention? Is there clarity? I think one of the missteps I've taken in my journey is doing things for the sake of doing them as opposed to doing them with purpose or with intention, right?
Great example, you know, for four years of woken up at 5:30/6:00 in the morning journal, read, coffee, the whole nine and the other day I was thinking myself, like – why do I have to drink coffee everyday? And it was like – wait off, just always I've drank coffee for like, 10 years, why do I need that? What purpose does it serve as a real intention? Is there something beyond the idea the fact that I just want something warm in the morning when I wake up. And how does caffeine make me feel? How does it impact my adrenals?
The point that I'm getting to with this is our habits just because they are habitual, does not mean that they are intentional and I think you have to be clear again, this idea about clarity about why you're doing the things that you're doing. Think about this in the workplace, you ever get frustrated when you're at work and you're like, why are we doing things this way? Obviously, I know a way we can do it better, I know I have a better idea, this will work, this will flow, it'll help everything or in relationships or friendships or anything, it doesn't matter and you're like – I believe this is going to be beneficial another person or the company or the business, they say well that's just the way we've always done it and does that not make you want to pull your hair out? Like I've remember distinctly so many moments in my career of working corporate or working for other companies and people saying, that's just the way we've always done it like that to me is fucking asinine, why? Is that the way we've always done? I don't know.
Now, take what I'm saying right now and apply that to your life. We're in your life do you have habits where you're going I just this is the way I've always done it; this is just who I am, right? I believe entirely that is a fixed mindset and this hit me really hard the other day. Like, real talk coffee, I love it but what does it really do for me? One it fuck's up my sleep at night, right? Two it makes my tummy hurts, sometimes. Three like, I've never had a cup of coffee where I was like, oh, this changed my life, right?
It's something that I started doing because I was working myself to death, this is a decade actually probably 12 years ago. I was working myself to death, doing 100 hour weeks, running multiple companies, this is very much in alignment with where my life was a disaster. Now, I want to be clear, I'm not saying I'm giving up coffee forever, but like this morning in the last couple days and on the ongoing future I've made a decision – I'm not going to have coffee in the morning. Maybe I'll have it in the afternoon, but definitely not in the morning, why? Because I thought to myself, wait a second if I'm doing this just because I've always done it what value does it bring to my life?
Now meditation, journaling, yoga, stretching, and drinking water, I have intention around those things. I know that those serve a purpose.
- They helped me get reconnected, my brain and my body as my brain and body, just got disconnected, go figure, so those things helped me become real associated, they helped me create meaning in my day, they helped me make sure that I'm on the right track.
Growing up in trauma, like – the biggest thing that happens is my brain is super chaotic and it just calms me down, it slows everything down. So, I've intention in those things coffee made, no sense to me, I just like it literally just hit me like a brick to the face the other has a, why am I doing every day? It has no value in my life, but think about this too, what about if you're smoking? And what if you're drinking every day? What if you're eating fast food every day? What if you're lying to friends or partners our relationships?
What if you're only half ass working at your job and you're not really bringing value to the company? What if even when you're volunteering, or you're showing up you're not really there? Like, are you only doing those things? Because that's the way you've ever done it, or do you need to address reality and say wait a second, maybe I need intention here because I promise you things that have served you in the past, may no longer serve you today and you have to do a constant inventory about where you are in your life to notice this and whether or not it's true because I found in my life as I've moved through some things, no longer serve me.
I'll give you a great example, I used to go to AA meetings all the time. I started going wrong as a kid, right? And so I remember going with my mom and I started going in my late 20s, I will be clear with you, I've never thought I was an alcoholic ever, let's never cross my mind. It was more so I was looking for community, I was trying to understand alcoholism because it runs so deeply in my family and I just found that the more I would go and be in these rooms, the more I found that they did not suit me. It was not serving me in any capacity and that's not to be dismissive of AA or any support groups because I still have some that I go to because I think they're important, I think it's great to be seen and heard and connected to people, right? But ultimately you have to ask yourself. Why am I doing this? Why am I showing up? Why am I putting in the effort and energy, right?
You know, we become very habitual by nature, one, saves brain space, right? You've ever been driving your car and suddenly you're at work or you're suddenly at home or 45 minutes went by and you're like, wait a second what just happened? Your brain, one of the most beautiful things that it does is it takes on these autonomic responses and services to free up the space in your mind so that you can take care of handle other things.
Now, one of the things that's really interesting I cannot remember who said this, and I'm apologize but I was listening to another show recently, and they had a Neurologist on, he was talking about the fact that people who intentionally change up the way that they drive to work actually increase bring longevity into their elder years. And I was fascinated by that because I guess it's kind of that same idea of like even when you work out, if you start working out differently, you switch up your body, you switch up your routine, your body and brain has to adapt your learning you're growing.
So if you think about that in this context like we're in your day to day life are you doing things that are habitual that are not intentional and are not serving you and where can you kind of change up the routine, right? If every single day, the first thing that you do is you turn on TV, right?
Think about what that's doing, is that impacting your life for the better or if you grab your phone first thing in the morning, is that making your life better? What is your intention in that? Or if you're me like, why am I drinking coffee as soon as I wake up? So, maybe I need to switch up the routine and readdress and reassessed because like truthfully and, you know, this to be true just because that's the way we've always done it doesn't mean that it's the best way.
So take some time. Get some clarity.
Think about what you're doing on your day to day.
And of course, Unbroken Nation.
Thank you so much for listening, it means the world to me.
Please, like subscribe, comment, share.
Tell a friend.
And Until Next Time.
My Friends, Be Unbroken.
-I'll see ya.
Michael Unbroken
Coach
Michael is an entrepreneur, best-selling author, speaker, coach, and advocate for adult survivors of childhood trauma.
Listen On
Welcome to The Think Unbroken Podcast!
Here are some of my favorite recent guests!
A Warrior's Path to Overcoming PTSD | with Kelsi Sheren
In this powerful episode, Michael Unbroken interviews Kelsi Sheren, a Canadian combat veteran who served in Afghanistan. Kelsi shares her harrowing journey of struggling with PTSD, depression, and suicidal thoughts after witnessing... See show notes at: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/a-warriors-path-to-overcoming-ptsd-with-kelsi-sheren/
How to Face Fear and Achieve the Impossible | with James Lawrence
James shares the powerful mindset and resilience that enabled him to achieve these seemingly impossible challenges. See show notes below...
How to Find the Courage to Be Yourself | with Leila Hormozi
In this powerful episode, Michael Unbroken sits down with Leila Hormozi. Leila opens up about her traumatic childhood experiences of loneliness, neglect, and having an absentee mother struggling with addiction. She shares how a pivotal moment as a young girl …
Break Toxic Relationship Cycles | with Kel Cal
In this episode, special guest Kel Cal shares her personal journey of leaving an emotionally abusive marriage, overcoming childhood trauma, and reclaiming her power. Learn how... See show notes at: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/break-toxic-relationship-cycles-with-kel-cal/#shownotes
From Addict to Healer | with Brandon Novak
Michael Unbroken delves into addiction, redemption, and self-love with guest Brandon Novak.... See show notes at: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/from-addict-to-healer-with-brandon-novak/#show-notes
The Journey to Self-Love and Personal Growth | with David Shands
Welcome to the Think Unbroken Podcast, where Michael dives deep into insightful conversations with extraordinary individuals like David Shands.... See show notes at: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/the-journey-to-self-love-and-personal-growth-with-david-shands/#show-notes
How to Live with Survivors Guilt | with Cole Hatter
In this episode, I am joined by my guest Cole Hatter, a renowned thought leader and inspirational speaker... See show notes at: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/how-to-live-with-survivors-guilt-with-cole-hatter/#show-notes
Building Resilience and Unstoppable Confidence | with Stormy Wellingt…
In today's episode, I speak with Stormy Wellington a Spiritual Leader, Wellness Guru and Modern-Day Harriet Tubman... See show notes at: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/building-resilience-and-unstoppable-confidence-with-stormy-wellington/#show-notes
E106 Overcoming Addiction Through Yoga with Cole Chance
In this episode, we have a guest speaker Cole Chance. She is a yoga teacher, instructor, and educator who I've known for quite a long time, who actually played a pivotal role in my healing journey. We talk about her …
E109 The Power of Quitting with John Lee Dumas | CPTSD and Trauma Hea…
In this episode, we have a guest speaker, John Lee Dumas. He is an incredible human being, a former officer in the Army, entrepreneur, and host of the number one rated business podcast that I've had the privilege of being …
Letting Go of Shame and Embracing Self-Love with Andrea Ashley
In this powerful episode of the Think Unbroken Podcast, host Michael Unbroken sits down with Andrea Ashley, the host of the Adult Child Podcast, to discuss the journey of healing and self-love... See show notes at: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/letting-go-of-shame-and-embracing-self-love-with-andrea-ashley/#show-notes
Finding Home Within Yourself After Heartbreak with Najwa Zebian
In today's episode, I am joined by my guest – Najwa Zebian. Najwa is a bestselling author and activist who has written a powerful guide to building a home for your soul called "Welcome Home". Through their candid conversation... See …
Lesley Logan - Chasing Your Purpose | Trauma Healing Podcast
Join our FREE COMMUNITY as a member of the Unbroken Nation: How do you chase your purpose? We talk about how to chase your purpose. Living with purpose is about remembering why you started and living in a way that …
E358: 10-No BS lessons to be the HERO of your life with Lisa Bilyeu |…
In this episode of the Think Unbroken Podcast, Lisa Bilyeu shares how she kickstarted herself out of the mundane to become one of the most influential voices in the personal development world-and how you too can gain the confidence to …
E186: How I became Unbroken on 7 Hats | CPTSD and Trauma Healing Podc…
In this episode, I was recently on The Seven Hats Podcast, and I've never done this before, so this will be my first time on the show that I do anything like this. You're about to listen to an episode …
E131 Overcoming Trauma and Self-Sabotage with Iris McAlpin | CPTSD an…
In this episode, I sit down with my friend Iris McAlpin. Iris McAlpin is a certified trauma coach and NARM® Practitioner specializing in self-sabotage, eating disorder recovery, and complex trauma. See show notes at: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/e131-overcoming-trauma-and-self-sabotage-with-iris-mcalpin-cptsd-and-trauma-healing-coach/#show-notes
E108 Who is Michael Unbroken
In this episode, I would love to share my back story with you. I'm going to include the preface to my book Think Unbroken Understanding and Overcoming Childhood Trauma. This is a dive into my background, story, journey, and what's …
Erica Garza - One Woman’s Journey Through Sex and Porn Addiction | Tr…
Join us for FREE, Unbroken Conference at: Do women struggle with porn addiction? In this episode, I speak with Erica Garza the author of the memoir, Getting Off:... See show notes at: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/erica-garza-one-womans-journey-through-sex-and-porn-addiction-trauma-healing-coach/#show-notes
Jonas Kaplan - How Neuroscience Impacts your Beliefs, Identity, and S…
Today, you'll learn more about the foundational understanding of identity and beliefs and why we operate the way we do and look at how... See show notes at: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/jonas-kaplan-how-neuroscience-impacts-your-beliefs-identity-and-self-narrative-mental-health-coach/#show-notes
Dr. Laura Berman - Is your past standing in the way of self-love? Her…
In today's episode, I'm very excited to share with you Dr. Laura Berman, a sex and relationship expert who has helped thousands of people over the years. And thousands and thousands of people learn some of the most practical tools …
E242: Suicide, incest, vulnerability, and kindness with Paul Gilmarti…
In this episode, I'm very excited to be back with you with another episode, and today's guest is Paul Gilmartin, the host of Mental Illness Happy Hour. If you've ever had thoughts about suicide, this is an episode that you …
E344: If You Want To FIND YOUR PURPOSE In Life with Jenna Kutcher | T…
Change is inevitable; it's as imminent as the moon, the tide, and the seasonal Starbucks menu; it's a rite of passage for all of us. Transformation is power, energy, and momentum. It keeps us moving forward. See show notes at: …
E50: Being a WARRIOR through childhood trauma with Anthony Trucks
In this episode, I speak with my friend, the unstoppable Anthony Trucks. Listen as we break down how to turn pain into triumph and why becoming the hero of your own story starts with making Shift Happen. Please Rate and …
Overcoming Trauma and Finding Hope: Personal Stories and Practical Ti…
Today, we delve into the journey of overcoming trauma and finding hope. I will share personal stories and offer practical tips for those who are struggling with their... See show notes at: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/watch-this-and-everything-will-change-trauma-healing-podcast/#show-notes
Exploring the Myth of Normal Mental Health with Dr. Gabor Maté
In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Gabor Maté, a renowned expert in the field of addiction, stress and childhood development. Dr. Maté discusses the myth of "normal" mental health and how our society's narrow definition of what is …
Vishen Lakhiani - Letting go of Pain and Finding Forgiveness | Mental…
In this episode, I speak with amazing guest Vishen Lakhiani. He is an entrepreneur, author, and activist on a mission to raise human... See show notes at: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/vishen-lakhiani-letting-go-of-pain-and-finding-forgiveness-mental-health-podcast/#show-notes
E379: Moran Cerf - How LUCID dreaming can IMPACT mental health and tr…
On Today's Episode: I am joined by my guest Moran Cerf s a neuroscientist and business professor at the Kellogg School of Management and the neuroscience program at Northwestern University. See show notes at: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/e379-moran-cerf-how-lucid-dreaming-can-impact-mental-health-and-trauma/#show-notes
Transform Your Life: 10 Innovative Ideas with Gino Wickman
Are you looking to make a change in your life but don't know where to start? Today, I am joined by my friend Gino Wickman as he shares 10 innovative ideas to help you take control and transform your life... …
Healing from Trauma with Dr. Mariel Buqué: Expert Insights and Strate…
In this episode, I speak with Dr. Mariel Buqué, a holistic psychologist & an intergenerational trauma expert. Join us as she shares her insights and strategies for healing from traumatic experiences and building resilience... See show notes at: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/healing-from-trauma-with-dr-mariel-buque-expert-insights-and-strategies/#show-notes
Navigating The Mental Health To Be a Multi-million Dollar Entrepreneu…
Today, we sit down with Amy Porterfield, an ex-corporate girl turned online marketing expert and CEO of a multi-million dollar business... See show notes at: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/navigating-the-mental-health-to-be-a-multi-million-dollar-entrepreneur-with-amy-porterfield/#show-notes
E203: How to Understand Addiction as a Trauma Survivor with Dr. Anna …
In this episode, I am excited to bring on Dr. Anna Lembke, one of the leading researchers and scientists on addiction on planet earth. She is a professor of psychiatry at Stanford University School of Medicine and Chief of the …
E113 Jordan Harbinger on ending struggle through action | CPTSD and T…
In this episode, we have a guest speaker Jordan Harbinger. Jordan is a former corporate lawyer who became a master podcaster. Jordan lays out some of the most incredible and practical tools about what it means to create a change …
Navigating Trauma and Mental Health with Lori Gottlieb, a Psychothera…
In this episode, I speak with Lori Gottlieb, a licensed psychotherapist, as she delves into the complexities of trauma healing and mental health... See show notes at: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/navigating-trauma-and-mental-health-with-lori-gottlieb-a-psychotherapists-perspective/#show-notes
The Wisdom of Rabbi Steven Z. Leder: Living a Meaningful Life and Fac…
Today, we sit down with Rabbi Steven Z. Leder, Senior Rabbi of Wilshire Boulevard Temple, to discuss his journey to becoming a rabbi, and expert on death... See show notes at: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/the-wisdom-of-rabbi-steven-z-leder-living-a-meaningful-life-and-facing-the-reality-of-death/#show-notes
Dr. Uma Naidoo- Harvard Psychiatrist on how to use food and diet to h…
Join our FREE COMMUNITY as a member of the Unbroken Nation: How do you start healing your body with food? In this episode, I speak with amazing guest, Dr. Uma Naidoo, who is a Nutritional Psychiatrist. We talk about recognizing …
E346: The MINDSET of A ZEN Navy SEAL with Mark Divine | Mental Health…
About seven years ago, I listened to today's guest, Mark Divine, on Tom Bilyeu's Inside Quest. And I was immediately captivated, like I could not actually put into words the thoughts going through my head. See show notes at: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/e346-the-mindset-of-a-zen-navy-seal-with-mark-divine-mental-health-coach/#show-notes
E299: The Miracle Mindset with Tim Storey | CPTSD and Trauma Healing …
In this episode, the number one celebrity coach on planet earth is about to have a conversation with us, Unbroken Nation. I am to announce and share with you that you are about to listen to none other than the …
Overcoming Addiction and Healing Trauma with Mike Diamond
Have you been personally impacted by addiction and trauma and are looking for actionable techniques to make a positive difference? This episode is for you!... See show notes at: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/overcoming-addiction-and-healing-trauma-with-mike-diamond/#show-notes
How to Think Unbroken - AlignCon keynote with Michael Unbroken
Join us for an inspiring episode of the Think Unbroken Podcast featuring a keynote speech by Michael Unbroken, a remarkable individual who defied all odds to achieve success... See show notes at: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/how-to-think-unbroken-aligncon-keynote-with-michael-unbroken/#show-notes
Transform Failure Into Success With Love with Ryan Pineda
In this episode, we have an inspiring guest speaker, Ryan Pineda, joining us to share his incredible story of turning failure into success through the power of love... See show notes at: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/transform-failure-into-success-with-love-with-ryan-pineda/#show-notes
The Secret for Abundance Mindset | with Chance Welton
Are you ready to unlock the secret to living an abundant life?... See show notes at: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/the-secret-for-abundance-mindset-with-chance-welton/#show-notes
Unleashing Personal Growth and Transformation with Ryan Zofay
In this episode, I interview Ryan Zofay, a successful entrepreneur and motivational speaker who has dedicated his life to teaching personal development strategies... See show notes at: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/unleashing-personal-growth-and-transformation-with-ryan-zofay/#show-notes
E325: Cleaning your Mental Mess with Dr. Caroline Leaf | Mental Healt…
In this episode, we have an amazing guest – Doctor Caroline Leaf, who has played a massive role in my personal healing journey over the years, someone that has been a voice that has helped me get to where I …
E369: Dr. Jud Brewer - end ANXIETY and WORRY today! | CPTSD and Traum…
What if I told you that anxiety and worry were emotional, behavioral habits that you can end through a simple three-step process. Jud Brewer. AKA Dr. Jud is a New York Times bestselling author and thought leader in the field …
E318: How to be happy and manifest the life you want with David Meltz…
In this episode, I speak with one of my great friends David Meltzer. David has spent the last vast majority of his life on a mission to help over one billion people be happy. See show notes at: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/e318-how-to-be-happy-and-manifest-the-life-you-want-with-david-meltzer-mental-health-coach/#show-notes
Natalie Dawson - Finding Confidence and Courage | Trauma Healing Coach
How Do You Build Confidence in Yourself? Confidence can be a tough thing to build up. But today, we will talk about how to put together some handy tips to help you and be the hero... See show notes at: …
E157: Discovering who you are through fear with Dave Hollis | CPTSD a…
In this episode, I sit with my friend Dave Hollis and we talk about his journey to where he is today, you know, it's a really fascinating conversation and a story about not only facing your fear but what it …
E130 The Theory of Impact with Tom Bilyeu | CPTSD and Trauma Healing …
In this episode, we have a guest speaker Tom Bilyeu. Tom is someone I consider to be both a peer and a mentor who tremendously helped me in my journey – singularly, I can point to him and three other …
E125 Creating Success in your Life with Damon Burton | CPTSD and Trau…
In this episode, I speak with one of my very close friends, Damon Burton. Damon is a Forbes contributor and an Amazon best-selling SEO book author that helps you show up higher on Google… without paying for ads. See show …