Dr. Kelli Palfy

Men Too Unspoken Truths About Male Sexual Abuse

About me: I am a registered psychologist who specializes in working with adult male survivors of sexual abuse. Prior to becoming a psychologist I was an RCMP officer who worked in the Integrated Child Exploitation Unit part of the Behavioral Sciences Unit of the RCMP. My unique background and experience investigating sex crimes committed against children led me into this work. In 2003/04 I was trained and considered to be the expert. I was humbled to learn that boys and men are victims too. Since no one was discussing what was already taking place, I recognized the gross under-reporting of the heinous crimes that are far too often committed on boys and men . In 2011 retired from my policing position, medically due to PTSD from bullying and began my Ph.D.
Reflecting back, I see that being in a position of power and feeling helpless to stop what was happening to me, helped me to establish a strong passion to help the boys and men who were also often powerless to stop or even discuss their abuse. So, I conducted my doctoral research examining why so few boys and men were actually reporting their sexual abuse, despite it’s prevalence. The results were varied, complex and multi-faceted. In 2016, I completed my Ph. D in Counselling Psychology. I then wrote a psycho-educational book: Men Too: Unspoken Truths About Male Sexual Abuse, which is designed to both support male survivors and educate the public. It is available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/author/drkellipalfy

I've had fantastic reviews about my book including these sample comments:

“You put words to what I did not previously understand”
“Your book just arrived and you have nailed it within the first few pages”.
“It was like you followed me around my whole life; you made sense of what I experienced.”

I greatly appreciate the opportunity to discuss male sexual abuse and the issues associated to under-reporting. Help me bring this important issue to light!