In today’s episode, we dive deep into the concept of patience and how it plays a crucial role in achieving your goals and manifesting the life you desire... See show notes at: https://www.thinkunbrokenpodcast.com/this-is-the-key-to-achieving-your-goals/#show-notes
In today’s episode, we dive deep into the concept of patience and how it plays a crucial role in achieving your goals and manifesting the life you desire.
I talk about deploying macro patience, which means having the ability to envision your future and align your actions with it, even when the desired outcome seems distant. Setting long-term goals and understanding that the journey may take time is essential.
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Hey, what's up Unbroken Nation! Hope that you're doing well.
In today's episode, I'm gonna talk to you about patience.
So recently I was having a conversation with one of the amazing members of our weekly coaching community. If you haven't joined us yet, go to keys.thinkunbroken.com to join us, we go live every Monday in our small group coaching program to help you transform your trauma and into triumph.
And one of the big topics this week we were talking about was patience. And if you know my background, you know my story, one of the things I've shared adamantly is back in the day I was not very patient when I mean not very patient, I mean not patient at all, I had no patience in my life. And what I've realized that in order to actually create the life that you want to have, you have to be able to deploy patience. But patience, here's what's really fascinating about it. You hear this adage; patience is a virtue. I entirely and wholeheartedly disagree with that. I believe entirely that patience is actually an attribute and a skill that you learn over time through leveraging it in your day-to-day life.
And I think one of the things people make mistakes about when it comes to patience is that they're like, oh, I have the thing that I believe I have the thing that I want and I want it now. But if you've ever had anything really incredible happen in your life, you probably have realized that it does not come immediately and in fact, most of the incredible things that happen in our life take years, if not decades, to come to fruition. And so, when I think about patience, I try to remove this idea of having the life that I want to have right now in this moment because like, my big dream, I wanna be the number one mental health speaker in the world. I want Think Unbroken Podcast to be the number one mental health podcast in the world. I want to have a beautiful home where I can foster children, an amazing partner, a Audi R8 Spyder, you know, I want to have a New York Times bestselling book, and these are my dreams, these are my visions, these are the things that are manifesting. But in order for those things to come to fruition, like there is a path and there is a pace, and sometimes it happens over a very long period of time, and there's this concept about deploying macro patients. So, in the long, when you look at the 10-year plan, the seven-year plan, the 20-year plan, it's like, can you have patience for what you want in the future and in real time today, in this moment, can you move like you are trying to accomplish it today?
And one of the reasons that people often fail at being able to make their visions come to fruition to manifest the reality that they want is because they don't understand that the things that they have to build and get in their lives, they may not yet have the skills to acquire, they may not yet have the ability to have those things. I remember one time I was talking with a mentor, this was like 12 years ago, and he said to me, because I was struggling really hard in this business, right? I used to be a wedding photographer. I was struggling really hard, this is like 12, 13 years ago. And I was like, man, why am I not getting the success? Why is it that I see all these other people having everything that they want? And I sat there and I was upset, and I was frustrated, and he says to me, something massively important, something I want you guys to take with you. He says to me, the reason why you don't have the success is because you're not ready to have the success, and I was like Oh, that makes sense because I hadn't yet learned the skills. I hadn't earned the things that makes one viable for success.
And so, this was the most important thing that I did. I sat down and I mapped out the life that I wanted to have. Guys, if you take anything from today's episode, it's this, if you wanna manifest the vision of the life that you want to have, it first starts with you getting clarity about what that life looks like. And in order to have clarity about what that life looks like, you have to take a pen and a piece of paper and start creating that life. And I love this course, I highly recommend it, it's not sponsored or endorsed in any capacity, but I think that you should check it out from Jordan Peterson, it's called Self Authoring. And I went through self-authoring a couple of years ago, and most recently I did it again and I got really clear about a lot of the things that I want, right about my lifestyle, my health, my family, my community, my hobbies, my career and for three hours I wrote down with clarity, every single, every single thing that I wanted because in order to manifest our visions, we have to understand what that vision looks like.
And look, writing these things down is not necessarily a game plan, right? People will write things down, be like, that's the plan, oftentimes the plan shows itself as we go. Like think about, we're in football season, right? So, in football, every single team comes into the game with their opponent, with a game plan laid out, they're like, this is what we think we're gonna do, this is the strategy that we're going to run, these are the plays that we're going to run in order to win the game. And then what happens is, in the game, these things start to happen. There are variables that are unaccounted for that they have to make audibles for. And so, as we're going down the path, we have our vision, but as we move towards the vision, we realize that there's an audible we have to make because instead of going right, actually what we need to do is go left and when we're going left what'll happen and subtly, here comes the safety and we're like, oh shit, we gotta lateral this football back to the running back and we gotta keep going forward. So that's a deep sports analogy, but basically what it means is, as we're going through this journey, you have to be looking for the opportunities that are different than the opportunities that you thought were going to be present when you started the journey. And the only way that you do that is you pay attention, but if you don't have the vision of what the goal is, then once you get into the game, you are automatically going to lose.
If you look at any team that comes into a game, regardless of sports, and they do not have a game plan, I assure you they have already lost, they've already lost because they haven't put in the work to have a direction to go. And so, as you manifest your vision, when you put together what it is that you want, it's like, can you identify your health, your wealth, your relationships, your love, your friendships, all of these things, and get clear about where you want to head because when you start taking action and moving towards those things, opportunities will present themselves. And as the opportunities present themselves, you'll get a better and more defined understanding of exactly who it is that you are and what you want. And this is where the manifestation starts to happen because most people, this is a huge mistake, guys. Most people think that if I believe it, it will happen, that is not reality that will never occur, there is no plan in the universe in which you can just think some shit, and it's going to happen, you're going to have to put in work. Now as you're putting in the work, this is where patience comes into play, because if you don't take, look, here's what it really comes down to.
If you don't give yourself patience in this journey, you will quit. Most people give up when they're two yards away from a touchdown. Most people give up when they're one more call away from closing the deal. Most people give up when they're one more conference from the breakthrough in life changing. Most people give up when they're just one coaching session away from having the breakthrough that they've needed.
One of the things I love Grant Cardone, I know I bring him up a lot, but he taught me this and he said, you never lose if you don't quit. And so, when I lay out this vision of my life, and when you lay out the vision of your life, what I want you to think about is what do you have to do on a long enough timeline to make that viable? Because today that vision might look like it's a decade away. But what can you do? What skills can you learn? Who can you connect with? How can you execute? How can you grow through it? What can you do every single day that moves you closer to that goal? And the truth is, like today we look at our goals, we look at this concept and idea of being patient, we're like, we want it now, respect a lot of things. I want now, yo real talk. I'm like, I'm seven years into being a public speaker and I'm nowhere close to where I want to be. Right? Then it's like we keep going, we keep executing, we keep doing it because I know, give me another two years, another six months maybe, and maybe it's another six years, I don't know. I know what the goal is, I don't know the timeline, so I just keep moving towards it and as long as you keep moving towards it, you're not going to lose.
And so, patience is about looking at the long-term game, not underestimating your possibility over a timeline and moving with massive speed and execution on the daily. Most people do not execute in the daily. Most people wait literally years to do something that takes 35 minutes literal, you see it all the time. And so, when you're leveraging patients in your life, remember that it's not about, I'm not going to try my hardest every single day, it's about try your hardest every single day and know that it might take you five times longer to get to where you want to go, but even though it may take five times longer, you can still have the vision, but without the vision, all the work in the world is pointless, an idea with action is pointless. And so, you have to take action, massive action against your ideas. You have to take massive action against the person that you want to become. And people will be like, well, I don't know if I'm not good enough yet. I haven't figured it out yet. Good. That's all the more reason why you should do it, because until you actually start taking action, you're never gonna things that you need to learn in order to be successful.
You can watch all the courses, read all the books, listen to all the podcasts, but ultimately, at the end of the day, the real change in your life is only ever going to come through your execution and the day to today against the vision that you believe that you can have. So, if you have patience, you will on a long enough timeline, manifest the vision of your life.
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Michael is an entrepreneur, best-selling author, speaker, coach, and advocate for adult survivors of childhood trauma.
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